sheabutterbitch:

To whomever needs to hear it; there’s nothing wrong with wanting to define a relationship. Emotional manipulators may convince you that you are too reliant on “labels” when this topic arises. “Labels” serve a purpose, they represent a set of clear boundaries, expectations, and appropriate behaviors.

My love requires transparency, consistency, and commitment; never let anyone convince you that this is too much to ask for. If that person cannot or will not meet your needs, you owe it to yourself, and them, to leave.